A Marriage Lost to a Political Allegiance

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It's no longer strange to see a fight between brothers or friends, a quarrel between a son and his father or even mother, between colleagues and 'bench warmers' on the street all because of a differences in political allegiance. But I never heard of it between a husband and a wife, that much which could lead to a divorce but today!

In an hour radio program this morning (Saturday, 3/10/2018) at Rahama Radio Station Kano, a sad story of what happened between a couple who were married with two kids that led to the dissolution of their marriage was disclosed. The story (among number of lessons, some of which I believe my readers would help me figure out at the end) exposes the sad reality of how unpleasant and injurious the political dispute in kano state has reached. It’s a hint to one of many things we consider too small or unimportant to be of concern but potent enough to leave our marriages to a likelihood of a negative outcome. Thus, a wakeup call.

To her knowledge, Abu (not real name) knows her husband Usman (not real name) as an ardent admirer of Kwankwasiyya (the political movement of Sen. Rabi’u Musa Kwankwaso, former Kano State Governor) which automatically made him an opponent of the incumbent’s – the Gandujiyya of Gov. Abdullahi Umar Ganduje. But this didn’t stop her from playing Ganduje’s political songs of praises at full volume especially when Usman is home. Usman begged and pleaded, but she refused to take heed. She told him how she’s madly in love with any song sang for Ganduje and Gandujiyya. In fact, she memorizes number of them, sing along with the singers when it’s played and dance anytime she wishes.

Then the unfortunate moment arrived, few days ago. As Usman returned from work, he found her listening to her collections as usual. He quietly approached her, took the phone and off it. He then removed the SIM and kept it with her as he headed into the room with the phone. I couldn’t record what she went into the room few moments after, it could be to greet him ‘welcome back honey’ or to ask for her phone, whatever, she was greeted with a written note of divorce! I was worried upon hearing this. Sad.

Divorce. A word I so much hate in my dictionary and seek Allah’s refuge. Something allowed in Islam but extremely frowned upon. It is the worse Satan could drive us into after shirkk and go on happily while we sob in the dark sphere of regret. The devil fooled Abu to take heed of her husband’s instruction and be blind of the consequences. Abu and Usman are now thrown into the dark sphere, their marriage is at the moment lost to an ego.

The radio presenters were solicitous enough to invite over Usman and appealed to him to take back his wife. One of them jokingly promised to buy the woman another phone similar to a Nokia 3310 so she could not be playing ANY song again. But that’s IF Usman agree to take her back.
If I’m to meet Abu, as a husband, I will remind her Usman is the man of the house and the best she can do to keep her home is to respect his decisions. It's a must to listen to his instructions so far as it does not go against Allah's injunctions. I'll equally advice Usman, though I admire his patience, to be more patient. Men shouldn't learn to inject themselves the I Don't Care Meds (IDCMs) to be at peace, most times. We shouldn't for God sake allow little things to drive us into regret. Most importantly, we should be prayerful.

Written 10th MARCH, 2018 CE

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